Saying Nothing At All

Sometimes we say it best when we say nothing at all. It takes much tolerance and love to sit and listen without speaking or offering our bouts of wisdom. Haven't there been times in your life that you just wanted to vent without really being offered guidance or words of wisdom? It's important to note that unless you specifically asked for just an ear to sound your horn into that its almost a given you will get the mouth to go along with the ear.

As with all of life you have to be specific with everything you ask for. For what you ask for in no unrelated terms you WILL get. When you ask in your mind thought of what it is you want, be specific. Be aware of the power of the spoken word but also be aware of the power of leaving your thoughts open ended. Life is full of surprises and you never know what you may get.

When you want to vent and want nothing else in return, then say so! When you wish to share with others the aspects of your life and want guidance, or even just prayers, then state that. When you do not do either, it is then you usually get more than what you may have truly wanted. The other person involved with whom you choose to share your thoughts with cannot read your mind. Not usually anyway, unless this is a very close friend and has learned when to offer advice or wisdom and when not to.

Just as common courtesy it's always best to reveal your wishes when you have chosen a sounding board. The person at the other end of course has choices in regards to fulfilling your wishes. They may choose to say nothing at all and that is OK. For them however, it is wise to again with common courtesy, say so. It is not a good feeling to walk away from any form of communication feeling uneasy or confused.

They listen, they hear you, and say nothing without letting you know and you walk away with this uneasy feeling that can compound all that you just shared with them. Everyday we learn by experiencing life. Everyday we learn what is best for us and are enlightened by others what is best for them. We aren't expected to always have the answers in regards to others situations. We do not always have to relate to what they are telling us. It is ok to say, I don't know; It is Ok to say, Gosh Sally, or Joe, I really don't know what to say and until I do since you asked for my input I will say nothing at all but you will be the first to know when and if I do know how to express to you my feelings on what all you have shared with me.

Always going through life thinking you have to know something about everything only leads to your own heartache. For as sure as the world rotates you will find yourself caught up in a situation you can't worm your way out of if your life depended on it. Honesty is the best policy, when you do not know the answers, say so! When you are not asked for your input specifically and are not sure if the person or people you are communicating with have not said, then by all means, ask them what it is they want from you, an ear, a mouth, or both! Until then you do not know, and that's ok! Until then saying nothing is saying it best, smile. Communication is the bridge to knowing!