Relationships, How to Identify your Soulmate

By Ernest Quansah A relationship counselor and a member of Canadian Association of Professional Speakers BC local chapter.

Recent poll taken in January 2003 indicates that 80% of North Americans believe they have soulmates. Some of the people in the poll went as far as to say they have met their soulmates but they make a mistake by letting their soulmates get away. This article will give you some ideas you can use to avoid loosing your soulmate. When you meet someone, how do you know the person is your life mate? Yes there is a soulmate for every man and woman. The reason why you should strive to find your is that soulmate relationships and marriages work. They are far more superior to ordinary relationships and marriages? If so why would those surveyed who believed they met their soulmates failed to connect? Lets discuss some of the reasons why some people find their right mate while as other arenít able to.

Here are a few of the reasons why so many people fail to either or not find their right mate. Acceptance is the very bases of all human needs. Over the years, I have counseled many singles looking for a meaningful relationship. I have discovered a major block that is one of the leading causes that determine why relationships fail.

  1. We, as people have the right to choose. Because of this free will, most people willingly choose a relationship and marriage that is guaranteed to fail. How, you ask? Because the desire to be accepted by a person you admire is not necessarily the one who admires you back, you may find your self dating the person you want. Thatís is okay. The problem is sometimes the person you choose may not want to be with you but is with because you are giving the person what he or she wants. If you still donít get my point, I am saying sometimes a person may be with you because the person gets to use you for self-gratification. In this case at the end it will be you who will suffer the hurt not the person who used you. It is sad I have to say this. There are men and women out there who donít care about your feelings. They will use you, hurt you and walk away with total disregard for the injury they course you. So what should you do? Protect your emotional feelings; take control over how you allow others to treat you. Remember, if you donít care about your feelings can you expect others to care about your feelings?
  2. People donít like to change. We like our little comfort zone so we turn a blind eye and hide behind denial. But do you know that when you deny or refuse to acknowledge that you are doing something wrong, you automatically put yourself in a position where you cannot and will not change. There is saying that goes, when you know something is not working, change it. A good example is, have you ever met a person you really liked but when you refused the person sex, the person left you? Let me put it this way, if a person cares for you, why would the person leave you? I know many situations when people meet their soulmates but refuse to be with the soulmate. Why?? Because of false finding. So too many people choose to be with people who will eventually leave them. There are also times when the desire to be accepted becomes so important to us that when we begin to have a relationship with a nonsoulmate, our feelings alone is all that matter. Remember at the end if the person of choice leaves you, it is you who pays the emotional price.

    So what should you do if you want to identify your soulmate? First make a conscious decision that you want a relationship with your soulmate. Secondly, set a goal. What I mean is ask your self what you are willing to do to find that special someone. Here are some ideas on pros that will for sure help you. Write down the pros and cons of soulmate relationships and marriage. Here are some tips you may consider:

    • Soulmate relationships bring joy.
    • Soulmate couples enjoy fulfilling sex than nonsoulmate couples.
    • Their relationships are filled with love, care, support, trust and so forth.
    For cons, you may consider these points:
    • My patience will be tested.
    • I will sacrifice instant gratification for a meaningful relationship.

    Remember, soulmate relationships and marriages have been researched for many years. The results prove that it works and is the very best relationship or marriage anybody could ever have period. Yes, you can find happiness, love, security, trust and respectful relationships if you choose to. So get out and get your soulmate. CHOOSE THE RIGHT one and remember change brings growth.

    Ernest Quansah is a writer, has 10 years of relationship councilor experience and a member of Canadian Association of Professional Speakers BC local chapter. His areas of expertise are, love, sex, dating advice, men, women, friendships , relationship counseling, soulmate relationships, interracial relation advice and marriage advice. His e-book discuses the above topics and he offers 1 year free advice on areas of his expertise upon purchase of his e-book. Website: Copyright © 2003 All rights reserved